Gordon came to speak to us about dealing with the difficulties of life.  He pointed out that things like grief, anxiety, and painful avoidance are pretty normal reactions to difficult situations.  We can't beat ourselves up about having those reactions.  But painful situations are something we all have to overcome.

He put forth some coping strategies and we discussed them.

  • Delay your gratification (sometimes it is going to take a little longer, and maybe that is ok)
  • take responsibility (you can't solve a problem by deciding that it is somebody else's problem)
  • Dedicate yourself to truth/reality (you can't solve a problem is you pretend that it is something other than what it is)
  • Achieve Balance

We had an interesting discussion afterward... particularly about recognizing balance when you see it.

Doubt, of whatever kind, can be ended by action alone - Thomas Carlyle.

It is a problem when people start believing that god is somehow going to take care of their problem.  Real action, taken by flesh and blood human beings is what takes care of a problem.  There are different ways of ascribing meaning to the actions you take, but however you interpret that, you still have to take the action.

"Life is a process of becoming, a combination of states we have to go through. Where people fail is that they wish to elect a state and remain in it. This is a kind of death."-- Anais Nin,